Sometimes you would really like to know if your family members, your employees or other people you have conversations with are lying to you in the face, or are telling the truth. Spotting a liar is not that easy, especially when we speak of experienced or pathological liars. These tips may help you recognize them much easier!
1. Body language
It is known since long that body language can say much about you. If you notice that the person who is telling you something is constantly sweating, moving hands, he does not stay in one place or is constantly biting his lips, than he is definitely lying.
2. The details of the story
When telling a lie invented on the spot, people can’t usually invent details so fast, so if you are asking questions about each little aspect of the story, then the liar will soon lose calm and admit the truth.
3. The reaction to the questions
Liars are not comfortable with questions, they seem to be unfriendly, indisposed and they whine, criticize and are overall uncooperative. This is a sign that the person in front of you is lying.
4. The eye contact
When a person is telling the truth, he or she has no problem looking in your eyes. The other way around, when you notice that your interlocutor is admiring the view, looking at your neck or at his own hands, then it becomes obvious that he or she is lying, or hiding something from you.
5. When someone is lying, he looks stressed
There are certain signs that clearly tell you that your interlocutor is under pressure. For example, if you notice that his pupils are dilated or that he is raising the pitch of his voice, than you need no other proof: he is totally lying to you!
6. The pauses are important
If you take a liar by surprise, than he will be forced to invent his story in that very moment. Except for the case when he is a true genius, he will need some moments to come up with a lie. Then, while telling it to you, he will need few seconds every so often, to put his ideas in order. Busted!
7. One topic, two stories
Ask your interlocutor to repeat the story. If you detect changes in the storyline, then you caught a liar! However, not all people change their stories when lying: According to the experts, smart people do keep the details unchanged and cannot be caught this way.
8. Liars try to seem convincing
As a general rule, people always think that they will be believed, when saying something. No one actually thinks that he will be considered a liar. This is why persons who try to convince you of their honesty-with phrases such as “I’m not lying”, “I’m telling you the truth”, or “to be honest”, may actually be lying.
9. When you want to believe what you are hearing
According to psychologists, sometimes we may want to think that whatever we hear is true and we are more than willing to believe in the story that is told to us. For example, if your child is telling you a lie, you want the lie to be true, as the reality would hurt you. Thus, any lie would suffice. However, you should try to be objective and notice the inadvertences in your kid’s discourse.
10. Intuition should do the rest
This sounds rather vague, but there are some people who may instinctively know if a person is lying or telling the truth. This “talent” may be cultivated by noticing behavioral patterns. If you notice how the other is acting when telling the truth, the changes may indicate you when he is lying. In time, you may become really good at it!