Manners are the business card of every individual in society. We judge those around us in terms of their gestures in different situations: at the table, on the street, at the theater, at home. Each circumstance corresponds to a set of rules. All they have in common is diplomacy and tact. Your child should not be demanded all sorts of complicated behaviors, but it would be good to explain the basis of mannered behavior in society.
1. Teach him to wait his turn
Often, we are visiting someone or talking on the phone and just then your kid starts asking a question insistently. Is it difficult to pay attention to both. Try to teach your child it is polite to wait their turn and not interrupt another people’s conversation.
Even if the child will feel angry or frustrated, make sure that as soon as you have time, give him a few moments and answer all his questions. The child must learn to wait patiently, but that does not mean you have to exclude him. Hold his hand until you finish the conversation, so he feels your presence.
2. Respect for privacy
The child is not allowed to go through your purse, pockets or open your mail. They hold the privacy of each individual and violation of this rule is a proof of disrespect. Teach him to ask permission before going through your personal belongings.
3. No nicknames
Ever since kindergarten, children begin to find different nicknames, usually based on a defect or anything that they find funny. These nicknames tend to be malicious, affecting those that are subject to ridicule.
Teach your child not to laugh at others just because he found a weakness. Explain that if he does not like the attitude of one of the children, it would be better to address it directly to him, but to avoid nasty names.
4. The magic words
Tell your child to use polite formulas when he meets someone. Hello and goodbye are proof of respect along with thank you and please. These are the magical words he should use all the time.
5. Do not talk with your mouth full
One of the most common habits of children is talking with their mouth full. Explain while he is still young that it is a rude behavior. Make sure he knows other rules while eating at the table: elbows are not kept on the table and use a tissue to wipe.
6. What he leaves behind
Teach your child that no one is obliged to clean up after him, and that he should become responsible in this regard. Even if he is at a friend’s house, in kindergarten or at home,before starting another activity, it is polite to clear the space.
7. Fair play
Explain how he should behave when he is enrolled in a competition. The most important is that the game is fair play and no matter the outcome, he must be courteous and polite.
Even if you win, that does not mean you should make nasty remarks, and if you lose it is pointless to get angry. For this purpose, you can watch sports games together and give him examples of athletes who salute each other at the start of the game, and the end.
8. Ins and outs
When entering a building the child must let an adult go first and open the door for him. Also, teach your child that when coming out of a building, he should not let the door slam shut, especially if behind him there are other people. Remind that it is polite to say thank you when someone hold the door.
Do not forget to mention that he should let those inside the elevator come out first.
9. No discrimination
The child will meet people whose way of life is unlike yours. Whether its religion, culture or material level, he must treat them in the same way. Explain that he can learn a lot when meeting different people.
Whether it’s a meeting with friends or family dinner, educate your child to be punctual and not force others to wait for him. Even when he wants to watch a play or see a movie, he should not be late because it is very inconvenient to disturb others when looking for a spot at the last moment.