Happy ever after? Till death do us part? Sound awesome, but unfortunately, not all relationships follow this kind of path. In the real life, not all people live happily ever after and relationships end even when you feel that things have never been better. What can you do in this kind of situation? Here are ten useful tips to help you get over a breakup and get your life back on track. Are you ready?
1. Meditate, do not take drugs
The pain may be great, but – although seemingly calm you – alcohol, drugs, medicines, cigarettes, chocolate, food, etc., will not only make you want more, more and more, but will not help you in any way to feel better after a breakup. You will end up feeling increasingly worse, because, besides the fact that you are hurting, you are gaining weight. Emotional pain and low self-esteem are a very bad combination. Instead, you can do meditation, yoga, or simple deep breathing exercises. They will help you relax, sleep better and keep yourself healthy.
2. Eat healthy and regularly
The body and mind cannot function properly if not fed properly. Do not skip meals and don’t even think about eating on the run unhealthy things. Feed yourself, like you would a baby: balanced meals with fruits and vegetables. Your body will thank you.
The body is refreshed after sleep. If you have trouble sleeping because of thoughts, keep a journal by your bed to write down every time the thoughts that come to mind. In this way, you release them. After you write them, say out loud “I release you. I allow myself to sleep”.
After a breakup, the endorphin levels in the body drop drastically. You can pick them up in sports. Subscribe to a gym, climb stairs instead of taking the elevator, take dance lessons. Promise yourself that for 30 days you do at least 30 minutes of exercise, whatever their type.
Do not try to hide your emotions and experiences under the carpet. Cry if you feel the need to cry, express your anger if you feel the need to do this. If you ignore your feelings, you will only give them more power. Write in a journal or tell your loved ones or even seek the help of a professional. The longer you talk about them, the easier it will be to manage and get over them. Easy, right?
6. Surround yourself with positive vibes
Do what you love to do, from going to drink a coffee with friends / them to visit the zoo, paint, play volleyball, anything. Surround yourself with happy people, positive, to raise your vibrations. Do not sit next to people as depressed as you, because they will shoot you down. Smile often, even if you don’t have a reason to do it! Just smile! Studies have shown that a simple smile can change your mood instantly.
7. No obsessions for you
All those obsessive thoughts revolving around “what would have happened?”, “what if I done this?” or “I should have…” will simply grind you on the inside. Stop! Say STOP! Every time they come to mind, say to yourself “Enough! STOP”. These words will stop the negative thoughts and will break the cycle of pain. Then, in the next second, redirect your thoughts toward something beautiful, positive and cheerful in your life.
8. The 60 seconds holiday
Take a deep breath and say out loud “I’m calm. I am safe. I can handle this”. These positive thoughts will help you enter a process of liberation. And it will feel good to free yourself.
Have you noticed that it is impossible to be grateful and depressed at the same time? Every time you feel down, think of all the good things in your life for which you can thank God. Say them aloud or write them in your journal. The strategy works perfectly.
10. Be generous
Studies have demonstrated that the happiest people are those who give. When you are anxious, stressed or depressed, you focus so much on your ego. But if you change your focus to the needs of others and help them effectively to overcome their own problems, you won’t even have the time to think about your own issues. Their happiness will be contagious and in no time, you will become a “winner”.