Facebook is good for the human species: we can meet new people and keep in touch with old friends, we can advertise our creations or groups and we can hang around and do nothing all day while spying on our ex’s new and annoying boyfriend or girlfriend. But Facebook is also good for meeting potential love interests, men or women. In today’s article we’re going to give you a few tips from real men out there who know how to pick up women on Facebook, who have had success in this area. You’ll need a few great pick-up lines and a bit of guts and you’re good to go!
10. Chat! Chat! Chat!
Jonathan, 23 believes the key to meeting new people and making new friends is the Facebook chat. You see someone you like and you approach them, it’s that easy! Chatting is the new dating! One evening on chat can tell you a lot of things, some that you can’t even find out about that person on live date.
9. First Message is the Most Important
If you see someone you like in your friends list and you want to start a conversation you have to put a lot of thought into the first message. Don’t make too many compliments, women aren’t too mad about that, especially when you two haven’t even met face to face. The key to a good first message is to keep it short and honest. No fluff! Say something like “I’ve noticed you on Facebook and I think you are interesting and I would like to get to know you better. Would you like to go out for a cup of coffee?” Simple and to the point, not lame and hilarious says Michael, 37
8. Be Honest
Mario, 29 thinks that being honest on Facebook is the first step to connecting with people. Post a profile picture of yourself where you look like yourself. You’re not fooling anyone – once you meet whoever you want to meet in person the deceiving is over. Same with the books and movies you like. Don’t try to like things just because they’re cool and you think you might impress someone. That’s never a good idea.
7. Respect the Wall
Nathan, 25 believes that it is very important that you respect her wall. This means to not post cute/lovey-dovey crap on it. If you get the urge to post a picture of a cat on her wall, knowing that she loves them, refrain yourself and send it over chat. Maybe she doesn’t want the whole world to know that you two are getting together or there may be a dozen other reasons why she wouldn’t like it, so don’t risk it.
6. Move Quickly
Brody, 34 feels that once you see someone you like on Facebook and you’ve befriended then, then you should move quickly and not let too much time pass: Don’t wait for an eternity to say hello and try to ask her out on a date. If you do, then you’re going to turn into that guy in her friends list who has no business there and you’ll most definitely get kicked out.
5. Keep a Steady Chat Flow
Ian, 43 met his wife on Facebook and he has a little tip on how to pick up women on Facebook. She was the friend of a friend and when she first saw her picture, he was smitten. I thought she has the most beautiful eyes I had ever seen and I said to myself that I must go out with her! I approached her and we started chatting in the evenings. There were some nights when I would be tired, but I thought that if I didn’t talk to her at least for a bit, then she would lose interest in me.
4. Don’t Be Afraid to Add New Friends
Hunter, 46 is divorced and is trying to get out back there. When he first made a Facebook account he was afraid to add new friends, because he thought he would come off desperate, but his son told him that a lot of people do that. How else are you going to meet people, dad? He told me and he was right. Once I started adding new friends, people I knew or even some I didn’t, I felt much better and I even met someone.
3. A Bit of Stalking Never Hurt Anyone
Gavin, 24 says that a bit of stalking never hurt anyone and that you shouldn’t be afraid to stalk the person you like… for a bit. How are you going to know what they like and what they don’t? says Gavin. I met my current girlfriend on Facebook; I saw that she was a huge blues fan and I hadn’t been exposed to it at all. I started listening and realized that I really love it and so I managed to spark a conversation with her and ask her for some recommendations.
2. Don’t be Pushy
Jace, 19 says: Two years ago I had a huge crush on a girl in my high school. I liked her so much that I just couldn’t take no for an answer when I asked her out. At first she brushed me off easily, but I wouldn’t give up. She threatened she would tell my mother who is her teacher if I didn’t stop nagging her. I swear I didn’t want to bother her, but I found it hard to refrain. I’ve learned my lesson, though.
1. Think Before You Type
Always think before you type! says Parker, 31. When chatting over Facebook you can actually take a moment and measure your words so that you know you’re saying exactly what you mean. Parker also believes that chatting while intoxicated is the worst idea when it comes to Facebook.
Have you ever tried to pick up women on Facebook? How did it go? Do you think you’ll use these tips? If you’ve got other tips you think would be useful, share them with us in the comment section below.